Three techniques to improve your confidence in just 60 seconds.
I’m going to let you in on a little secret… For some people, speaking and selling yourself with confidence isn’t innate, it’s a PRACTICE! That’s right, you have to practice confidence. You have to learn what confidence looks like, how it sounds, and how it feels.
I have three exercises that have become crowd favorites in my coaching sessions and workshops. These three exercises will accelerate your confidence in your speaking skills! In other words–we’re going from 0 to 60 confidence, real quick! (*Queue some Drake theme music!)
The ABC Exercise — #ABCchallenge
I use the alphabet with clients and in my workshops because the alphabet levels the playing field; everybody knows it. It’s something you can recite without having to think–and that’s precisely what I want. What people commonly fear when speaking publicly is that they’ll forget what they want to say, or won’t have anything to say. Doing the ABC exercise shows people just how words can flow when you’re prepared and when you’re so comfortable with the content that you don’t have to search for words.
The ABCchallenge is really simple. You’re going to:
SPEAK the alphabet. Make it sound conversational, not recite it as a song;
Introduce yourself;
Tell people you’ll be reciting the alphabet. Recite it;
Then provide us with a closing.
This is a fun exercise for all ages, and a good one to introduce to the young people in your life. It’s never too early to get them comfortable with public speaking. Do it daily and you’ll see yourself transform in no time! Click on the image above to watch my YouTube demonstration of the ABC Challenge.
Challenge a friend and share your ABC Challenge with me on social @itsmarceiacork. Use #abcchallenge!
Box Talk
The goal and outcome of Box Talk is to teach you how to speak on nearly any subject for one full minute. One minute is usually how much time you might spend answering a question. When you’re being interviewed or doing Q+A you have to learn how to think on your feet and answer questions quickly. Box Talk will teach you to find a way to answer any question with just three points. The key is to prepare an answer that’s personal, honest, and gets as close to answering the question as you can. For example, if you’ve been asked to talk about Plastic Surgery, but you have no first hand experience with plastic surgery you might say, “I’m going to talk to you about three celebrities who’s cosmetic procedures always have us talking: Cardi B, Nikki Minaj, and Kim Kardashian. To your audience, it feels like you’ve still stayed on subject and answered the question. Let’s take a quick look at my short BoxTalk demo, or watch the full YouTube video below!
Practice daily or multiple times a day! Why not–it only takes a minute!
Underscored!
Underscored is an exercise I use to show people how to perfect the manuscript style of speaking. With the manuscript technique, you are actually reading from a prepared script. This is how most keynote speeches are delivered, along with things like eulogies, press conferences and other opportunities. And if you’re planning to do voiceover work you’ll definitely read from a lot of scripts. The goal of this exercise is to learn to make your scripted reading sound more conversational and melodic, and less robotic. We tend to sound like robots when we read. But what you want is vocal variety. That means, you want to deliver a scripted speech in a way that sounds like you would if you were talking off the cuff and having an everyday conversation. We change our pitch, we change our volume, we change our pace. We often have a natural rhythm or cadence when we talk.
I call this exercise Underscored! because to underscore typically means to underline for emphasis. With this exercise, underlining and highlighting key words within your script will help determine what you want to emphasize and what you don’t, and help you find your rhythm and flow. Read below for an at-a-glance view of what to do, then watch this video to see the Underscored technique in action:
First, imagine yourself telling a recent story. Make note of how you sound when you’re excited, sharing private info, or while laughing, etc.
Read through your script. What’s the mood? I want you to underline, highlight and make notes of what you need to emphasize, and of what you’ll understate or run together with less emphasis.
Try to mimic your natural speaking voice.
Resist the urge to overemphasize adjectives, pronouns and verbs. Do this only if the content really calls for it.
Read through repeatedly, and settle into a natural cadence. When you notice a pattern while practicing you’ll know this is your signature flow! Chances are, this is how you sound when you tell stories or share information with friends! Just like we recognize the flow and delivery style of our favorite rappers, actors and voiceover talents, your audiences may have already started to pick up on your signature sound. So use this technique to really nurture what’s becoming your signature sound, and increase your voice recognition.
I hope you enjoy these exercises! Be sure to record yourself and share the videos with me on social using the hashtags #ABCchallenge #BoxTalk #0to60Confidence and #mebethebrand. I can’t wait to see you rebuilding, rebranding, and representing yourself with confidence!
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The idea of speaking in front of an audience is already intimidating enough. Public speaking is one of the top phobias; many people fear it more than death! Instead of focusing on the speaking itself, try improving your public speaking opportunities with these 10 tips that don’t require any speaking whatsoever!
10. Learn your audience. Your speech is nothing without an audience! Research your audience to learn the best venues and platforms for your speaking engagements. Seek demographic data whenever you can. Knowing your audience will help you develop the right messaging. Which posts and what content generated the most reactions from your followers? If you’re conducting interviews on podcasts or going live on social media, research the best days and times to interact with them. When are your followers most active on social media? Get a firm understanding of your audience and the topics they want to hear, and plan accordingly.
9. Look the part. Represent your brand and dress like a member of your audience and client base. You should reflect both your product/service and your client base. Your image should be consistent with those you serve. Likewise, your attire should align with the price points of your featured product/service and topic. Otherwise, you won’t be trusted. You’ll look like someone who doesn’t even march to the beat of the drum you’re selling.
8. Dress comfortably. Now make sure you’re comfortable! Your goal with every speaking opportunity is to be present and engage with your community. If you’re uncomfortable you may fidget or be distracted, and it will show. Be mindful of the environment–will you be too cold? Sweat too much or overheat? Will the hat you’re wearing keep falling off? Will your jewelry bang against the microphone? Think ahead and dress for comfort so you aren’t distracted–and so you don’t become a distraction to your audience.
7. Remember to “PBS”. Pause. Breath. Slow down. The first thing we do when we’re nervous is start to speak too quickly, and we run out of breath! It’s not a good feeling to be winded when speaking, so correct this early. Practice first–in front of a mirror, or record yourself. Pay attention to the pace and rhythm of your speaking voice. If you find that you rush when nervous, slow yourself down by taking longer pauses between words, and taking deep breaths in through your nose and out your mouth. It’s very similar to trying to catch your breath while running or jogging. Here’s a tip: inhale and say “P-B-S” to yourself. It will remind you to pause, breath, slow down and pace your breath.
6. Invite a friend! The more the merrier, right? Yes, everything’s better with a friend! The banter between two hosts or speakers is very effective in engaging the senses and holding an audience’s attention. But be strategic about who you invite to join you. Guests and co-hosts should align with either your brand or your community; they should have a product, service or story that resonates with your audience. If they don’t, the discussion may not be of value to your audience, AND it may deter them from ever joining you again.
5. Structure your speech. Develop an agenda/program. Speaking opportunities are a great time to be authentic and put yourself out there–but be your BEST self. This is for your audience, so make every minute of their time and participation count. Don’t wing the conversation. Give them a preview of what you’ll cover in and what they will get out of your speech–it makes it easier for them to follow along and not lose focus. Then, make sure you discuss every point you promised! Leave them feeling fulfilled (not like they wasted their time) and wanting to hear you speak again!
4. Use notecards Again, don’t wing it! If you’ve taken time to carefully organize your speech and curate the discussion, you certainly don’t want to miss any of the key points! Work from a bulleted list of main points and/or agenda items. This helps you stay on topic and make the most of the time allotted. It’s also a great way to make note of follow-up questions and comments. Also, using notecards rather than flimsy paper make you look more polished and aren’t as noisy when handled!
3. Give your speech “CPR” – Credibility. Personality. Relatability. Someone told me recently, “I’m not buying the product if the owner is a mystery or doesn’t seem confident!” The first step in selling your product or service is to effectively sell yourself. People do business with those they trust, like and know. If you want to see the way I break down my CPR acronym and position it against what’s known in social media marketing as the “Know/Like/Trust” factor, you can check that out here.
Way too often these days I see people deliver in a way that mirrors a Ted Talk, as if that has become the standard for giving talks. But what makes people like you, and feel like they know you, is when you sprinkle a little of what they’ve come to learn about your personality! So as you develop your talking points, be sure to season it with what people know about your personality, and what makes you credible and relatable.
2. Memorize, and visualize yourself getting through your speech successfully. Once your agenda items are determined, memorize things like your introduction, and any jokes, facts/statistics, or other things that add flavor to the conversation. Memorizing and knowing them versus reading them also add to your credibility. They make the content feel more like second-nature to you and take away the anxiety out of forgetting something important!
Call it a “dress rehearsal” in your head! Visualize running through and sequencing your speech until you know exactly where you can inject a quote, story, testimonial, song, etc. without losing your place. Visualize your success!
1. Practice looking confident in your “Proud Stance” The Proud Stance is a term and exercise I use as I coach clients on how to fall into a comfortable but professional position that they can hold for at least one minute. I have a quick and helpful demo of how to practice your Proud Stance here. A minute is about how long it takes to introduce yourself at the top of your speaking opportunity and establish credibility. It’s also about the amount of time it takes to respond to a poignant question. So practice falling into a comfortable position that looks professional, but matches your personality. Try to hold that position without rocking, pacing, fidgeting or adjusting your clothes. A person who can hold a position with confidence commands an audience’s attention!
And there you have it–10 ways to improve your public speaking, and fine tune your speaking opportunities before you even begin to deliver them!
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